Chloe's Insights on Marriage and Family Relationships

          Hello blog viewers and welcome to our fifth post to this series! For this discussion I wanted to talk about preparing for marriage and how it looks different for different groups. It seemingly looks different for everyone, but culture and generations change how we prepare for marriage.             I first think of the difference between western cultures and other cultures within the context of dating. I know in other cultures it would not be completely strange or wrong to suggest a price for a woman to marry. In our culture we would consider that inhumane and would very much consider that objectifying to women. I do find it so interesting that we fail to realize a lot of the time that we hold paradigms and perspectives from our culture and environment that make it hard for us to understand how things could be done any differently.             I secondly think of the di...

💗Hey there friends !💙 It's been a very interesting week full of pondering and discussion around the role of gender and how that makes males and females different, especially within the context of family. I th ink sometimes we att ribute these traits and behaviors to who your mom, sister, brother, or dad just is, but most people follow those certain patterns of gender roles just in their nature. This nature is theorized to be caused by so many things. Some people believe it is evolutionary in that the man used to hunt, and the woman would care and nurture.   In my own experience growing up and even now m y family is  a g reat exa mple of male and female gender roles. My mom does not work anymore, and my d ad works to provide fo r o ur fa mil y .   My mom stays home and takes care of the kids and all other domestic duties such as cooking and cleaning.   I am a religious person, so I truly believe this to not be a coincidence. I believe God created ma...

            This week I wanted to discuss how the social classes and cultures that we are surrounded by affect our behaviors and attitudes in our own family units. We truly are fabricated by our environments and how the people that raise us react to those environments. A very simple and minimal example of this principle is that my parents raised my siblings and I in the state of Oregon. The area of Oregon where we lived was , for the most part, the stereotypical Oregon city. A part of the classic stereotype is being very environmentally conscious, and in my area we were. More specifically our community was big on recycling. It was very normal to recycle cardboard, cans, plastic, etc. Anything you could think of, we separated it from our normal trash. So, when I moved to Idaho, my roommates I was living with (who were mostly from the South) did not separate the recycling from the trash. And to add to it, my apartment complex I lived in did not do rec...

Something I have been pondering this week is the communication that happens without any words said. Sometimes I only think of the words I say and perceive that as what people are receiving on their end, but a lot of communication does not require spoken word at all. Most of it is through body language and sounds we make. Think of sighing, or scoffing.        This within a family context can be incredibly interesting to observe . So many families have different body language or sound cues that signify a response from the other person. These are often rules we input into our own behavior because we see others do it and adopt it as our own code of behavior.        A personal hypothesis I created is that babies mimic their parents when they are just learning how to talk, behave, etc. So, we normally also pick up on these unspoken rules as we grow older in order to fit in with the family dynamic and society in general.    ...